John, Enjoyed your blog as usual. I agree that there is a fine line between loving caring and doting. I find that the more services we render to Jackson, the more dependent he becomes. He has lost confidence in doing simple tasks that he has the ability to perform.
This relates to your article on exercise. I find that the best time to encourage Jackson to do anything is after our exercise classes. One that we like is "Zumba." You exercise to music and go through movements that require some thinking. You have probably done this. An example is moving your hands to form the letters YMCA. This sounds simple, but it is challenging to do it in keeping with the music.
Jackson doesn't like discomfort, let alone pain. While PD underlies his total health problems, he has fairly serious knee and hip injuries that severely compound his problem. Specialists have indicated that surgical intervention would be in order for each problem, but osteoporosis and PD weigh against surgery. Oh. The joys of aging.
We came up to our place in the mountains. Fortunately one of our daughters and her husband are here and have taken on all of the meal preparation and cleaning up. The writer is finding it more and more difficult to do routine tasks. I used to enjoy cooking, and did most of it for several years. That talent has left me. I don't find pleasure out of a lot of things I did for pleasure, like gardening.
So, PD has an influence on activities and physical ability, but so does aging. Without caregivers, life would be very difficult for both of us. Fortunately we live in a great place where all services are rendered, including dining in a nice dining room with others. Our exercise is done with others and we participate in activities with others every day. Being with and doing things with others is good for both of us.
We are lucky that we have these environments to experience. I don't think either of us would be as well off as we are if we were limited to the confines of a house or apartment. Coming here is good tonic for both us. Varied activities in our retirement community is also healthful, as well as the services.