But, as an 86-year-old with Parkinson's, I can use lots of help. I'm delighted that our excellent neighborhood "listserv" recently provided me some very helpful support.
For the uninitiated, a listserv is simply an electronic mailing list. You provide your email address and receive the information. Many urban neighborhoods have listservs. Maintained by volunteers, they provide a place for neighbors to exchange information about that new restaurant that just opened, complain (in our case) about the noise from the jet plans, ask for recommendations for good babysitters, etc. This past week our listserv was an invaluable resource as we dealt with the blizzard and shared information on snow plows, shovellers and lots of other issues.
I sense -- and my research confirms -- that massage helps alleviate the stiffness that progressively afflicts those of us with Parkinson's. So, adding a weekly massage to my routine is a winner. And my masseuse and I share similar interests and views and are developing a nice friendship.
Encouraged by this experience, I recently checked out two other local vendors on the listserv. I was pleased with both initial sessions and look forward to working regularly with these area entrepreneurs.
My lifetime reluctance to ask others for help may be lifting a bit. Just about all of us in our 80s could use help. If you have a neighborhood listserv, check it out for listings like the Saturday Vendors List I found on ours. If you don't find a ready-made list, you can often get help just by posting a message on the listserv, like "Anyone know a good masseuse?" or "I could use help with X. Any recommendations?"